The 5 Elite Fundamentals will increase your chances to have fun, interesting dates in order to maximize your opportunities in finding the right person for you.
KNOW WHO YOU ARE
It might sound obvious, but requires you to be brutally honest with yourself.
Are you the shy-quiet-type? Your idea of a good night might be a good book or a movie with a warm tea.
Are you always out and about, letting the world know the party can start, because you are in the building? Club owners love you!!
Are you somewhere in the middle; meaning that you are down for whatever? A late dinner with friends followed by a night of dancing and late night eats at your favourite diner.
Find what makes you tick: likes and dislikes; if you don’t know then dating is a great opportunity to find out. The more you date the more you learn about yourself. The more you know about yourself, the better your dates will be and you will gain confidence.
I find that when I run a speed dating event, the people that are the most successful are the ones who know themselves. You see and feel the attraction by the way they carry themselves.
KNOW WHY YOU ARE DATING
Knowing why you are doing something will guide you on how to proceed. Are you looking for companionship? Want to make babies? A life partner? A fling? Just to try a new experience?
All the reasons are good, especially as you are on your Elite dating quest. Knowing why you are dating will help you with all the following Elite Dating Fundamentals.
KNOW WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU’RE LOOKING FOR
Short-term dating? A long-term relationship? Looking to hang out as just friends? Do you want an open relationship? Maybe you want a casual no-strings-attached liaison?
Have you planned certain milestones that need to be achieved by a certain time? Are you recently separated or divorced and ready to date? Are you just enjoying being single and meeting different people? Have you just arrived in a new city and looking to meet people?
For example, some people at our speed dating events choose only one person to match with and some others choose everybody to be matched with.
The more a person is aware of the kind of relationship they are looking for, the better ready they will be to select the right kind of people they want to match with.
KNOW WHEN YOU ARE ABLE TO DATE
Does your work schedule only permit you certain hours off to date? Are you are a single parent and you need to plan your weekends and sitters for your kids? Are you generally very active with planned activities during the week?
All of these are very valid. So either during weekends, the week or specific days, as long as you know WHEN you have openings in your schedule to date, you will be better able to plan it out and enjoy your time and start dating your matches sooner rather than later. It is understood that like all things you have to make time to have the time. So please make dating a priority just like the other important events in your life.
KNOW WHERE YOU WANT TO GO
This question always comes up during or after our Elite Speed Dating events. Where can we go for our second date? The advice I always give is to go somewhere or do an activity that you enjoy.
For example, if you like painting and art, perhaps a museum or an art gallery. If you enjoy laughing, and jokes, a comedy show might be right up your alley. If you’re a foody, hitting a tapas bar or a food truck crawl will fill your desire.
By doing things that you enjoy, you have a better chance of showing your true and most enjoyable side of your personality.
Lastly please remember that in order to have an Elite dating experience, you have to be willing to experience!! Incorporate these Elite Fundamentals and put yourself out there. Be ready and willing to meet people and date!!
It is the best way to have an Elite dating experience.
Founder, President and CEO of Elite Speed Dating